It’s hard to be human... especially while leading other humans.
I repeat this often as much for myself as for those around me.
I know you desire to stop the cycle of burnout, overwhelm, scarcity mindset, and imposter experience - which threaten to level you every time change, growth, struggle, or failure show up. You see it in those you lead, too.
There is beauty in being reminded that there is not one feeling or negative mindset belief that we singularly experience. While our circumstances are unique, rumbling with difficult emotions and thoughts is universal. This common humanity helps takes away the edge of feeling alone in a space of struggle, heartache, failure, frustration.
Yet, our culture and the personal + professional development field have led us astray on how to approach difficult emotions and beliefs that keep showing up, causing you to doubt yourself. Your vast accomplishments and investment in personal work do not make you immune to these beliefs. In fact, many of the messages about these struggles are toxic.
If we dare to show up and lead, create, take a stand, set a boundary, do something different, disrupt the status quo, build/expand a business, lead a movement, write a book, push through growth edges... then doubt, failure, fear, and vulnerability will be a given. (Just to name a few.)
And feeling hard things while trying to stay true to your values, your vision, your important relationships, your health is part of the gig of leading.
However, being an imperfect, fallible human does not feel like a strength or a unifying experience. It is a beast navigating the vulnerability of leading and caring deeply about your work and those that are relying on you.
If you are here - reading this right now - you are a leader ready to level up your skill set to navigate your next big growth edge, a most recent curve-ball that took your breath away, or develop a new approach to those relentless inner critics and imposter experiences.
Early on, I internalized the message that any sign of struggle was a reflection on my character, and therefore my safety and my value. Pursuing careers in politics and advertising taught me so much about power and how easy it was to be what others wanted me to be. Shoot, I learned that early on growing up in a volatile home and as a child of divorce.
During my childhood in suburban Minneapolis and as an undergraduate at university in Iowa, I chased all things that would give me a sense of more power, control and worthiness, but I still felt like something was missing. The hustle was exhausting, though exhilarating, as I went on to work in Washington, DC for a United States Senator, in New York City for an issue advocacy advertising firm, and in Europe for an international youth outreach organization.
I left the corporate world and the security of the known and went back to graduate school at age 30. Everyone around me thought I was nuts, but they also knew that whenever I put my mind to something, I made it happen. And I did. Grad school was a period of refinement, integration, healing, inspiration, and so much hope.
Starting Potentia - my brick and mortar integrative mental health practice based in San Diego - brought everything full circle. It helped me apply all that I had learned in my previous careers while running a business, leading a team, and refining my skills around helping people and organizations. It was during this time I fell in love, got married, and started a family. My brilliant husband - an AP History teacher and retired ocean lifeguard - and my two children are my rock, my inspiration, and, to be honest, the source of my own feelings of overwhelm at times, too. :-) As a mother of a daughter on the autism spectrum, I have had to dig deep in my own personal practices of what I share with others. I teach this work not because I believe in it and have seen how it has helped hundreds of people - including myself - live an integrated life and embrace Integrated Leadership™.
In addition, I enjoy writing, teaching, and speaking (previously at amazing places like Yellow Co., Courage Camp - a conference for leaders trained in Brené Brown’s methodologies, and the Center for Self Leadership International Conference). I have been a featured webinar guest with business thought leaders like Jason Van Orden and Gemma Went, and was a regular contributing mental health writer for Darling Media. I am a regular guest on podcasts for creatives, entrepreneurs, and those in the personal development fields. Check some of them out here, here, and here.
Through my practice as a Certified Internal Family Systems Therapist and Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator (Brené Brown, PhD’s training company), a systems theory thinker, and trauma-informed leader, I now support leaders like you who are making an impact in all spheres. This common humanity helps takes away the edge of feeling alone in a space of struggle, heartache, failure, frustration.
It is my joy and life’s work to help leaders like you shift your perspective and find sustainable practices to navigate the inevitable curve balls of leadership and life. Daring to do the work means you’re bound to leave your mark and the world for the better. I would be honored to support you. Let’s talk soon.