Leadership and discomfort are inextricably connected.
So much personal and professional development teaches us to figure out the problem and quickly move on.
But true resilience and growth require more than just the decision to “let it go.”
Leading well requires tolerating the discomfort of being seen, not just at your filtered best, but really being seen in your strengths and also when you make a bad decision and navigate the fall-out, respond defensively to criticism, and struggle with your confidence.
Bypassing or shutting down discomfort leads to numbing and disconnecting instead of feeling through the hard things.
It is essential that we get to know the burdens we carry and learn how to heal them so we can lead ourselves and others with more presence and generosity.
On today’s show, it is an honor to give you a window into the friendship I have developed with two colleagues of mine, Natalie Gutierrez and Kim Paulus. These friendships have become so valuable to...
Everyone gets angry.
And most people have learned to hide their anger–often at great costs.
There is a LOT of baggage we carry around the emotion of anger.
These burdens come from our faith traditions, culture, family of origin, work, school, and inform your relationship with anger today.
We are constantly navigating the many rules of what is ok and what is not ok when it comes to expressing, let alone feeling anger.
In the process, anger can slowly start to consume us. Anger overwhelms and it feels like it owns us—even as we’re doing our best not to show it.
But contrary to what many of us have been taught, anger is an important and valuable emotion.
You can own your anger instead of your anger owning you.
To own your anger, you’ve got to trust yourself. You’ve got to be able to hang out with the anger you feel so you can identify where it’s coming from and what it’s trying to tell you.
My guest today is no stranger to rumbling with her...