It’s because these experiences are all a part of being human – no matter how experienced or successful you are. These feelings and experiences can’t be eradicated because a part of daring to lead, love, and try new things, involves risk. And where there is risk, there is shame and fear lurking. Always.
Shame and fear frequently appear when something in life pops up to threaten our security, relationships, reputation, identity, bottom line, or worthiness.
But shame and fear can be managed in ways that minimize their toxic impact on your business and in your personal life.
You have the idea. The vision. The dream. The next big thing brewing…
You’ve worked through so much – personally and professionally. You’ve overcome and arrived.
You are more than a survivor – you are always striving to live your best life.
But something is missing.
When doubt, fear, and perfectionism show up, you’re annoyed. Surely, you think, these bedfellows should be old news by now?
To uplevel, you need to push your growth edges. It’s the physics of our inner world, contrary to many mind hacks out there that offer bandaids that eventually lose their stick.
And at the heart of our doubt, imposter experience, perfection, and inner critic is one emotion…
It’s what stifles creativity and innovation and crushes even the most evolved leaders.
Brené Brown, PhD, defines shame as the intensely painful feeling or fear of being unworthy of love and belonging.
Shame crushes our core desires for connection, belonging, love, and creativity. And when belonging is the oxygen for our soul, then the threat of losing our belonging goes for the jugular. It makes us feel like we’re back to ground zero.
When shame is running you, it kills your business growth by:
I know you KNOW the lies of shame are not true. Yet, they keep showing up. You find yourself in an inner battle with these lies and keep trying to make them disappear.
You try to kill stuff, tell them to go away (this is the polite version), and shut down the parts of yourself which say, “You can’t do it.” “It has to be perfect.” “Other people will see you as the fraud you are.”
And sometimes, you get a reprieve for a moment or even a season, but eventually these voices resurface, causing you to once again doubt your hard work, your leadership, and your ability to do what’s difficult.
Now, I don’t doubt your abilities for a moment. And I know you know how capable you are, but these flare ups of shame are disorienting.
I know the struggles of shame are persistent and levelling. I also know there is a way to shift how you respond when difficult emotions like fear, blame and perfectionism inevitably show up.
And being able to tolerate the vulnerability of these experiences instead of resisting your feelings is key.
When: Thursdays from 9:30AM PST – 12:30 PM PST
Note: Interested but this time does not work for you? Email me as there may be a second cohort starting at a different time.
Dates: February 22nd, March 1st and March 8th, 2019
How: We’ll meet online for three weeks in a row and also in our private Facebook group.
Register now. Click here for access to the application form.
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I am a seasoned psychotherapist (15 years and counting), business owner, and an early adopter of The Daring WayTM, a training company founded by Brené Brown, where I am a certified Daring WayTM Facilitator and Consultant. I am also a Certified Internal Family Systems Therapist – a methodology which is infused into all of my workshop offerings.
I have built my career around learning what it means to lead (and how not to lead) in politics, advertising, international youth work and as a business owner. Neuroscience, mind-body, whole person, laser focused work with groups of wholehearted leaders is my jam along with working with cutting-edge entrepreneurs and thought-leaders like you.